Introduction to Online Play: Phone Calls

Originally published July 23, 2020. Updated to reflect my current policies on December 10, 2020.

This post is an excerpt from my blog, Introduction to Online Play, which focuses on the differences between 4 types of online play: texting, phone calls, cam sessions, and custom clips. For brevity's sake, I've broken up the original blog into 4 smaller posts, each of which focuses on a separate virtual play format. You'll find the information on phone calls after the informative introductory paragraphs below.

Introduction to Online Play

As everyday life continues to become more and more digitalized, many kinksters and fetishists have found themselves drawn to online play. Virtual domination is near and dear to my heart: it's how I got my start as a professional Dominatrix, after all! I've been a dirty little online pervert since January 2011 and virtual domination continues to be a priority of mine no matter how busy I stay at the dungeon.

With so many options for online play, it can be a bit overwhelming if you're trying to decide which format is the best fit for you. Whether you're looking for a casual way to explore your newfound interest in BDSM or you're a seasoned player making the transition from dungeon to screen thanks to COVID-19, it's important to know the differences between virtual play formats. This blog series focuses on 4 popular forms of play: texting, phone calls, cam sessions, and custom clips. This post is about phone calls.

Before I get to the fun stuff, I need to discuss online privacy and discretion. Many of you have concerns related to virtual domination, especially when it comes to nonconsensual online exposure and exploitation. That's completely understandable! A quick browse through kinky Twitter shows established Dominants casually posting incriminating photos and videos of folks alongside the subject's detailed personal information. It's important to remember that much like a lot of things on the Internet, you can't always take these posts at face value.

Photo by Alexandra Kacha. Los Angeles, Dec. 2019.

When you see a post like that on my social media accounts, know that the post itself was always negotiated ahead of time. These men and women being "exposed" aren't actually being exposed in the true sense of the word and instead, simply have an exposure fetish. They get off on others knowing about their kinks, so not only did they give me permission to post that information (and in fact, tell me which photos to use!), but they also paid me enough to care about doing so in the first place. If you're not paying me handsomely to go out of my way for you, I'm not interested.

Remember that as a professional Dominatrix, my livelihood relies heavily upon mutual discretion and consent. There's a huge ethical difference between consensually indulging someone's exposure fetish and straight-up blackmail. One of these options will keep my reputation intact, while the other is very illegal and would land me in jail, not to mention ruin my career and almost 10 years of hard work. So, uh, that's a hard limit for me, thanks.

I'm a popular Dominatrix and my schedule is packed: in addition to taking sessions at my dungeon (pandemic permitting, of course!), I film clips, take phone calls, play via text, host cam sessions, sell fetish items, and own a sissy-themed retail business. This doesn't even cover the amount of work I put in behind the scenes: photo shoots, keeping up with social media, spending hours perfecting blog posts and monthly newsletters, etc. With that in mind, when it comes to consensual exposure versus very illegal blackmail, which option do you think I'll choose, every damn time?

Feeling better? Great! Let's move on...

Before you jump into the world of online domination, it's important to know how to talk about your interests and expectations as openly and honestly as possible. Much like a live session at the dungeon, the more I know about you before we start playing, the better I'll be able to personalize your experience. At the dungeon, I'm able to read your body language to determine how much further to safely push you or how excited you are about a new activity. I don't have that luxury with virtual domination, so good communication on your end is vital for both of us. I can't truly humiliate you if you can't express what you find humiliating!

Photo by Alexandra Kacha. Austin, July 2019.

Knowing how to properly communicate during online play is especially important if you're working with time or budgetary constraints. If you only have 10 minutes to talk on the phone, for example, I can easily spend the first 5 playing guessing games if you're not comfortable telling me bluntly that you're calling because you want to be my panty-wearing, cock-sucking, cum-guzzling sissy slut.

It's also important to remember that some play formats may not be a good fit for you: after texting for a few days, you may realize you prefer phone calls, for example. You may also realize that you and I aren't a good match: maybe our availability doesn't align often enough for your needs, you simply don't like my play style, or the experience you're looking for with me is out of your budget. I'm not for everyone, and that's okay! It's important to keep exploring.

Phone Calls

As much as I love texting, it isn't the right fit for everyone. Many folks prefer phone domination as, among other things, it guarantees my full attention: since we're having a live conversation, there's no need to question if I'm fully available or if I'll respond promptly enough for your liking. Phone calls also allow you to hear my voice... and my distinctive cackle if I'm laughing at you!

While I take calls on SextPanther and, more rarely, IWantPhone, most of my phone domination traffic comes from NiteFlirt. Many callers prefer NiteFlirt because it's been around for years and has earned a reputation as a safe, reliable platform. Calls are charged per minute and I have different lines (and rates!) for different purposes: general domination, erotic hypnosis, financial domination, etc. This variety allows you to pick which line is best aligned with your interests.

Much like texting on SextPanther, your calls from NiteFlirt come to me from a private number, which keeps your personal information completely anonymous. For those of you worried about discretion, there's no way for me to learn anything about your private life unless you choose to tell me... and even then, if you slip up and tell me something a little too personal, I have no incentive to do anything with it unless you're paying me enough to care.

In addition to being a popular destination for kinky and vanilla calls alike, NiteFlirt has a Chat feature, a store for clips and audio files, and Pay-To-View messaging abilities. If you'd like to explore what I offer on NiteFlirt, click here.

Photo by Alexandra Kacha. Los Angeles, Dec. 2019.

A downside to phone domination is my somewhat unpredictable schedule. With texting, you can reach out to me at any time, but with phone calls you have to wait until I'm actively available. While I try to log on to NiteFlirt every day, it doesn't always happen: sometimes life gets in the way. That said, I'm most often available for calls during the day and early evening, usually from 10 AM - 8 PM CST, and my lines are usually off later at night. This is the case for both weekdays and weekends.

Sometimes I post about my availability on social media, but if you'd like to call me, your best bet is to visit to see if my listings show I'm currently taking calls. If we're chatting on SextPanther and you'd like to call, shoot me a text to confirm I'm available first: sometimes, I'm only available for texting.

Please note that while I occasionally utilize NiteFlirt's Chat feature, it's not my favorite. Not only does it not send messages directly to my phone, but it also doesn't allow me to set my own rates. If you'd like to play by text, I recommend contacting me via instead.

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