Originally published July 23, 2020. Updated to reflect my current policies on December 10, 2020.
This post is an excerpt from my blog, Introduction to Online Play, which focuses on the differences between 4 types of online play: texting, phone calls, cam sessions, and custom clips. For brevity's sake, I've broken up the original blog into 4 smaller posts, each of which focuses on a separate virtual play format. You'll find the information on custom clips after the informative introductory paragraphs below.
Introduction to Online Play
As everyday life continues to become more and more digitalized, many kinksters and fetishists have found themselves drawn to online play. Virtual domination is near and dear to my heart: it's how I got my start as a professional Dominatrix, after all! I've been a dirty little online pervert since January 2011 and virtual domination continues to be a priority of mine no matter how busy I stay at the dungeon.
With so many options for online play, it can be a bit overwhelming if you're trying to decide which format is the best fit for you. Whether you're looking for a casual way to explore your newfound interest in BDSM or you're a seasoned player making the transition from dungeon to screen thanks to COVID-19, it's important to know the differences between virtual play formats. This blog series focuses on 4 popular forms of play: texting, phone calls, cam sessions, and custom clips. This post is about custom clips.
Before I get to the fun stuff, I need to discuss online privacy and discretion. Many of you have concerns related to virtual domination, especially when it comes to nonconsensual online exposure and exploitation. That's completely understandable! A quick browse through kinky Twitter shows established Dominants casually posting incriminating photos and videos of folks alongside the subject's detailed personal information. It's important to remember that much like a lot of things on the Internet, you can't always take these posts at face value.
When you see a post like that on my social media accounts, know that the post itself was always negotiated ahead of time. These men and women being "exposed" aren't actually being exposed in the true sense of the word and instead, simply have an exposure fetish. They get off on others knowing about their kinks, so not only did they give me permission to post that information (and in fact, tell me which photos to use!), but they also paid me enough to care about doing so in the first place. If you're not paying me handsomely to go out of my way for you, I'm not interested.
Remember that as a professional Dominatrix, my livelihood relies heavily upon mutual discretion and consent. There's a huge ethical difference between consensually indulging someone's exposure fetish and straight-up blackmail. One of these options will keep my reputation intact, while the other is very illegal and would land me in jail, not to mention ruin my career and almost 10 years of hard work. So, uh, that's a hard limit for me, thanks.
I'm a popular Dominatrix and my schedule is packed: in addition to taking sessions at my dungeon (pandemic permitting, of course!), I film clips, take phone calls, play via text, host cam sessions, sell fetish items, and own a sissy-themed retail business. This doesn't even cover the amount of work I put in behind the scenes: photo shoots, keeping up with social media, spending hours perfecting blog posts and monthly newsletters, etc. With that in mind, when it comes to consensual exposure versus very illegal blackmail, which option do you think I'll choose, every damn time?
Feeling better? Great! Let's move on...
Before you jump into the world of online domination, it's important to know how to talk about your interests and expectations as openly and honestly as possible. Much like a live session at the dungeon, the more I know about you before we start playing, the better I'll be able to personalize your experience. At the dungeon, I'm able to read your body language to determine how much further to safely push you or how excited you are about a new activity. I don't have that luxury with virtual domination, so good communication on your end is vital for both of us. I can't truly humiliate you if you can't express what you find humiliating!
Knowing how to properly communicate during online play is especially important if you're working with time or budgetary constraints. If you only have 10 minutes to talk on the phone, for example, I can easily spend the first 5 playing guessing games if you're not comfortable telling me bluntly that you're calling because you want to be my panty-wearing, cock-sucking, cum-guzzling sissy slut.
It's also important to remember that some play formats may not be a good fit for you: after texting for a few days, you may realize you prefer phone calls, for example. You may also realize that you and I aren't a good match: maybe our availability doesn't align often enough for your needs, you simply don't like my play style, or the experience you're looking for with me is out of your budget. I'm not for everyone, and that's okay! It's important to keep exploring.
While custom clips aren't quite as interactive as other forms of online play like phone calls or cam sessions, they're another popular way of experiencing my dominance in a virtual setting. Though clips don't necessarily allow for the spontaneous back-and-forth between us found in other forms of play, they're the only option that provides you with a polished product you can enjoy at your convenience over and over again.
Custom clips are a great option for a number of reasons. They're perfect for those of you who prefer a visual experience and know exactly what you like and want to see. They're also great for folks who may not have the time required for phone calls or cam sessions: if you have a hectic work schedule or personal life, it may make more sense to commission a clip to watch at your leisure rather than try to arrange something that depends on two busy people having mutual availability. For those of you with privacy concerns, custom clips are the most discreet way to play with me in a virtual setting. There's no third-party billing history to hide and the finished product is sent directly to your email address.
Out of all my options for online play, custom clips require the most of my time. It takes me hours (yes, plural!) to prepare for filming: in addition to doing my hair, nails, and makeup, I have to stage my background, set up my lights, etc. Filming itself usually takes much longer than planned due to camera angle changes and unexpected interruptions that mess with the background noise, like a barking dog next door or a plane flying overhead. After that, it takes a few hours to edit the clip thanks to tasks like color correction, video transitions, and special effects... and that's before I even export the file!
My clips are filmed in vibrant HD, with 4K footage also an option. While I have a $150 base rate for custom clips, the final price is dependent on a few factors, such as the subject matter, the complexity of certain props and wardrobe, special requests for personalization, and so on. Unless otherwise negotiated, this price will result in a clip that's roughly 7-10 minutes long. Payment is due in full upfront and I typically have a 2-3 week turnaround time.
Depending on the nature of your clip, it's likely I'll resell an edited version in my clip stores, though you're welcome to pay a little extra for exclusivity if you'd like your fantasy to remain for your eyes only. While your input is vital (it's a custom clip, after all!), I don't enjoy filming heavily scripted customs as they tend to stifle my natural creativity.
A quick glance at my content library on my members site or OnlyFans shows plenty of clips shot with a variety of Dominants and submissives. When contacting me about a custom clip, it's important to note that I don't always have access to filming partners, and the ones I do have access to may not be willing to play out your idea. This is especially true right now thanks to COVID! I'm always happy to discuss your ideas with you, but the only participant I can ever truly guarantee for a clip is myself.
If you'd like to contact me about a custom clip, I recommend texting me on SextPanther or calling me on NiteFlirt to get the ball rolling. Clip making is a labor of love, and contacting me on one of these paid platforms shows you see me as a professional and value my time.
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