This post is an excerpt from my blog, Introduction to Online Play, which focuses on the differences between 4 types of online play: texting, phone calls, cam sessions, and custom clips. For brevity's sake, I've broken up the original blog into 4 smaller posts, each of which focuses on a separate virtual play format. You'll find the information on cam sessions after the informative introductory paragraphs below.
Introduction to Online Play
As everyday life continues to become more and more digitalized, many kinksters and fetishists have found themselves drawn to online play. Virtual domination is near and dear to my heart: it's how I got my start as a professional Dominatrix, after all! I've been a dirty little online pervert since January 2011 and virtual domination continues to be a priority of mine no matter how busy I stay at the dungeon.
With so many options for online play, it can be a bit overwhelming if you're trying to decide which format is the best fit for you. Whether you're looking for a casual way to explore your newfound interest in BDSM or you're a seasoned player making the transition from dungeon to screen thanks to COVID-19, it's important to know the differences between virtual play formats. This blog series focuses on 4 popular forms of play: texting, phone calls, cam sessions, and custom clips. This post is about cam sessions.
Before I get to the fun stuff, I need to discuss online privacy and discretion. Many of you have concerns related to virtual domination, especially when it comes to nonconsensual online exposure and exploitation. That's completely understandable! A quick browse through kinky Twitter shows established Dominants casually posting incriminating photos and videos of folks alongside the subject's detailed personal information. It's important to remember that much like a lot of things on the Internet, you can't always take these posts at face value.
When you see a post like that on my social media accounts, know that the post itself was always negotiated ahead of time. These men and women being "exposed" aren't actually being exposed in the true sense of the word and instead, simply have an exposure fetish. They get off on others knowing about their kinks, so not only did they give me permission to post that information (and in fact, tell me which photos to use!), but they also paid me enough to care about doing so in the first place. If you're not paying me handsomely to go out of my way for you, I'm not interested.
Remember that as a professional Dominatrix, my livelihood relies heavily upon mutual discretion and consent. There's a huge ethical difference between consensually indulging someone's exposure fetish and straight-up blackmail. One of these options will keep my reputation intact, while the other is very illegal and would land me in jail, not to mention ruin my career and almost 10 years of hard work. So, uh, that's a hard limit for me, thanks.
I'm a popular Dominatrix and my schedule is packed: in addition to taking sessions at my dungeon (pandemic permitting, of course!), I film clips, take phone calls, play via text, host cam sessions, sell fetish items, and own a sissy-themed retail business. This doesn't even cover the amount of work I put in behind the scenes: photo shoots, keeping up with social media, spending hours perfecting blog posts and monthly newsletters, etc. With that in mind, when it comes to consensual exposure versus very illegal blackmail, which option do you think I'll choose, every damn time?
Feeling better? Great! Let's move on...
Before you jump into the world of online domination, it's important to know how to talk about your interests and expectations as openly and honestly as possible. Much like a live session at the dungeon, the more I know about you before we start playing, the better I'll be able to personalize your experience. At the dungeon, I'm able to read your body language to determine how much further to safely push you or how excited you are about a new activity. I don't have that luxury with virtual domination, so good communication on your end is vital for both of us. I can't truly humiliate you if you can't express what you find humiliating!
Knowing how to properly communicate during online play is especially important if you're working with time or budgetary constraints. If you only have 10 minutes to talk on the phone, for example, I can easily spend the first 5 playing guessing games if you're not comfortable telling me bluntly that you're calling because you want to be my panty-wearing, cock-sucking, cum-guzzling sissy slut.
It's also important to remember that some play formats may not be a good fit for you: after texting for a few days, you may realize you prefer phone calls, for example. You may also realize that you and I aren't a good match: maybe our availability doesn't align often enough for your needs, you simply don't like my play style, or the experience you're looking for with me is out of your budget. I'm not for everyone, and that's okay! It's important to keep exploring.
At this point, cam sessions are probably the closest option to a session at my dungeon: in addition to guaranteeing you have my undivided attention, we both get to see each other at the same time, albeit on our respective screens. You get to see my genuine reactions play out in real time and I get to watch you follow my instructions. Of course, being told to spank yourself isn't quite the same as having me spank you in person, but webcam makes it a much more personal experience than just dishing out those same instructions via text.
Cam sessions require much more commitment on my part, so I require them to be scheduled at least 48 hours in advance. Because I'm always so busy with other aspects of my job, I don't cam often: I need more time to prepare and arrange my schedule than, say, a career cam model might. Since I don't cam on a regular basis, I don't have a designated availability calendar. This means that realistically, if you'd like to cam with me, you need to make an appointment. Merely hoping our schedules will magically align one day isn't likely to get you far. For these reasons, cam sessions with me probably aren't the best fit for those of you on the more impulsive side or with unpredictable, frequently changing schedules.
Cam sessions are scheduled with me directly, starting at $10 per minute with a 30-minute minimum. I require a nonrefundable 50% deposit to secure your booking with the remaining 50% due no less than 2 hours before our scheduled appointment. I don't cam enough to involve an adult-friendly platform that also takes a large chunk of my earnings, so for now I cam on a number of popular vanilla videoconference platforms that would be absolutely appalled if they knew what I was using their services for.
If you're new to webcam play or used to shorter cam sessions with others, 30 minutes may seem like a long time to book. On my end, I'm used to sessions at the dungeon lasting at least 2 or 3 hours: comparatively, 30 minutes is nothing! Please remember that much like a session at the dungeon, when you book cam time me, you're booking a block of my time. My 30-minute minimum doesn't equate to 30 minutes of play: instead, it gives us half an hour to account for any tardiness on your part, negotiations prior to play, the actual play itself, and a bit of aftercare at the end if necessary.
If you're new to webcam play, you may also have concerns about privacy. As I mentioned above in the Introduction section, my job relies heavily on our mutual discretion and consent. I have no desire to risk almost 10 years of hard work over half an hour of play. If you're still concerned about remaining anonymous, the beauty of webcam sessions is that they allow for endless creativity: among other things, you can keep your cam angled so that your face is just out of frame, wear sunglasses and a mask, disguise your voice by speaking in a different pitch, or wear clothing that hides identifying features and tattoos.
Please note that currently, all of my cam sessions are conducted from my home rather than from my dungeon in order to minimize unnecessary travel outside the house (thanks, COVID!). If you have a special request for an outfit or prop, accommodating your request may require some extra prep time on my end for this same reason.
Some folks love interacting with me in a domestic setting: they love getting to see my natural dominance come out in a more vanilla, everyday environment. That said, sometimes the right setting can make or break an experience for someone. If it's important to see me in a traditional dungeon environment, your best bet is to commission a custom clip.
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